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✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ✅ IMPORTANT LINKS: 👉 https://www.powerfulwords.com/ ✅ Stay Connected With Me: 👉 WebSite: https://www.drrobynsilverman.com/ 👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drrobynsilverman 👉 TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@bigtalkswithkids 👉 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/DrRobyn 👉 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drrobynsilverman/ ============================== ✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman As Body Image Expert: How Barbie Dolls Can Impact Young Women | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_S5BXoUL-8 👉 Fighting Weight Obsession: Good Girls Don't Get Fat - Preview Of The Book | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmxq4VfA6LU 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman's Expert Insights On Body Image On The Tyra Show | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fp5hFoF65EU 👉 The Risks of "2 Sexy 2 Soon" - Dr. Robyn Silverman Shares Parenting Insights on Good Morning America https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8DJUi4Z7qU ============================= ✅ About Dr. Robyn Silverman : Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman is an internationally recognized speaker, author, success coach & educator on Parenting, Character Education and Body Image She has been featured on numerous TV shows, including The Today Show and Good Morning America, and has contributed to various publications such as The Washington Post and Parents Magazine. With a Ph.D. in Child and Adolescent Development, Dr. Silverman specializes in teaching social-emotional skills and character education to parents, teachers, and children. She has authored several books, including "Good Girls Don't Get Fat" and "The Power of Words: What We Say Matters. 📩 Email: DrRobyn@DrRobynSilverman.com 🔔 Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ===================== #childdevelopment #parentingtips #expertadvice #confidencebuilding #positiveparenting #emotionalintelligence Disclaimer: We do not accept any liability for any loss or damage which is incurred from you acting or not acting as a result of reading any of our publications. You acknowledge that you use the information we provide at your own risk. Do your own research. Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use © Dr. Robyn Silverman

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How do we talk to kids about Health Challenges & Medical Diagnoses with Kelly Fradin

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow do we talk to kids about Health Challenges &Medical Diagnoses Many of us have been there. We walk out of an appointment with our child’s doctor or teacher and we feel concerned—and a whole host of other feelings from fear to anger to sadness, confusion and of course, love. We all hope that our children are healthy and cruise through life fairly unscathed- so when reality hits and we hear that our child has common challenges like ADHD or learning disabilities or more severe challenges like feeding issues, asthma, food allergies, anxiety or depression, we can become alarmed. As we may flip into roles beyond the typical parenting caregiver to medical scheduler, diagnosis researcher, health advocate and more- we may find that money, time, access and a feeling of calm is in short supply. What can we do to cope with and talk with our kids about challenging medical diagnoses and how to proceed through life with one? For this, we turn to Dr. Kelly Fradin. Many of us have been there. We walk out of an appointment with our child’s doctor or teacher and we feel concerned—and a whole host of other feelings from fear to anger to sadness, confusion, and of course, love. We all hope that our children are healthy and cruise through life fairly unscathed- so when reality hits and we hear that our child has common challenges like ADHD or learning disabilities or more severe challenges like feeding issues, asthma, food allergies, anxiety, or depression, we can become alarmed. As we may flip into roles beyond the typical parenting caregiver to medical scheduler, diagnosis researcher, health advocate, and more- we may find that money, time, access and a feeling of calm is in short supply. What can we do to cope with and talk with our kids about challenging medical diagnoses and how to proceed through life with one? For this, we turn to Dr. Kelly Fradin. Dr. Kelly Fradin (@AdviceIGiveMyFriends) is a pediatrician, mother of two, and child advocate based in New York City. As the Director of Pediatrics at Atria Institute, Dr. Fradin was inspired to become a doctor because of her experience surviving childhood cancer. A graduate of Harvard College and Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons, she has dedicated her career to caring for children with complex medical conditions in many situations including academic clinics, private practice, inpatient units, and schools. She shares realistic and empowering parenting advice and children’s health information on her Instagram account @AdviceIGiveMyFriends, which continues to grow. Important Messages: • My diagnosis affected more than just me- it affected the family. Children don’t exist in, in isolation. They’re part of a family unit and, and we need to talk about that context when we help a child because a child with asthma in one family may require a totally different plan of care than a child with the same diagnosis in a different family. • Mistake: When you survive childhood cancer, you’re often left with kind of a laundry list of you’re at higher risk for skin cancer. So you see a dermatologist, you’re at higher risk for, for colon cancer, so you have to go to colonoscopy early and all this healthcare maintenance stuff. And when I was in my twenties and early thirties and in medical school and starting a family, it was very tempting to dismiss the preventive healthcare and not make it a priority and not make time for it. And I think that is, is generally speaking a mistake, but the fact that even me with my knowledge of how important it is still made those decisions, we may prioritize just the regular everyday. • Parent impact: Biggest success in my experience and the thing that I think had the biggest impact was that my mom was very empowered to, to advocate for me • Tempted to avoid the conversation. We often want to protect our children from hard things. But child knows there is something wrong even before you say something. Body language of parent. Whispers. Extra doctor’s appointments. Then the child acts out—because of the stress. • Advice: So I would encourage parents to communicate earlier rather than waiting, because that even if, even if the answer is, “I don’t know, but we’re gonna figure it out by asking the right people for help and, and we have a plan to get more information and I’ll update you soon,” that that can make a child feel safe and that can make a child feel like they’re a part of the team and that they’re have some control. And it also invites children then to ask follow-up questions because it’s better that they ask than that they worry or stew on their own. • Warning: Children can get a sense and a sense that something’s going on. And because they have such vivid imaginations, they can actually go to a darker place and wonder if something even more profound is happening to them or somebody that they love. And by talking to them, we put them in a little bit mo

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How to Talk to Kids about Equity, Racism and Social Justice with Jason B

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Equity, Racism and Social Justice This podcast focuses on the conversations that need to occur around racism, inequities and social justice in a world where black and brown boys are routinely marginalized, mistreated and made to feel inferior.  How can advocates, educators, parents and activists become mentors and guides for black and brown boys? How can we empower our young people to speak out and create change? How can we change the stereotypes of this group of young people by highlighting the good, changing our expectations and altering the old systems that no longer serve? Dr. Robyn Silverman speaks with educator, Jason B. Allen, about how we can make a difference. Special guest: Jason B. Allen It is no secret that many of our black and brown boys are marginalized, mistreated and made to feel inferior in today’s world. You’ve heard leaders call for systemic change- but that only happens when the people within our systems, help them to change. We need advocates, educators and activists to help do this important work—to teach and guide us, as parents and coaches and prominent people in the lives of youth on how to help all our young people reach their potential. There are some uncomfortable conversations that must occur- about racism, about inequity, about social justice—with those young people who are on the receiving end of inequities as well as with those who are peers, friends, teachers and parents of those who must cope with these inequities every day. How do we talk to our kids about equity and social justice? How do we empower our young people to speak out and make change? And How do we present ourselves as mentors—or provide the mentors our children need- so that they have people to look towards who look like them so they can see where they can go with hard work and hopefully, a fair shot. For all of this, I turn to special educator, Jason B. Allen. Jason B. Allen is a Special Education teacher in Georgia. Jason has worked in Education for over fifteen years as a teacher and leader servicing students, families and communities. One way he uses his platform is by helping to improve ways to recruit, retain and empower Black male educators to advocate for social justice and equity through his work with Profound Gentlemen. As an education activist and blogger (EdLanta), Jason actively speaks and writes on ways to improve educational outcomes and is helping lift student voices in decisions to improve and reimagine education. He is a member of the Association of American Educators (AAE) and an AAE Foundation Advocacy Fellow and a 2017 YouCAN Advocates Program Alumni. Important Messages: “As a Black male educator, I don’t just get to talk about it; I have to be about it. Every day I have an opportunity to shift the narrative on how Black boys—who will grow into productive citizens like me—are accepted, treated, perceived and depicted in the world. Black boys often show some of the highest levels of deficiency in areas of academics, behavior, discipline and attendance in schools.”  Change the narrative around Black boys: Sharing the stories of the black and brown boys in the classroom- what they would like to see, their struggles, how home and outside of the home plays a role. Data show that black boys struggled when it came to discipline in the schools—problems with policy and cultural dynamics. Story of Kalen- shows that building relationships with students can create positive change and enables better educational outcomes. Engagement- engage our students. Government doesn’t invest in family and community engagement in our public schools. (See Harvard School of Education under Karen Mapp). Engagement helps the kids who might have been left behind. We need to be intentional about what we are doing right now- having the conversations. What are you going through? How is this going for you? How is the classroom, this school, impacting you, positively or negatively? Then we lay out the variables. We start to do the problem-solving so that the things that they see teachers do in the classroom, they can see us doing in real time- that’s how you get the buy in.” The more we have the conversations, the easier they become. 2% of male educators of color in the classroom in America. Need for more social-emotional support for children of color in public schools. Resource- Demario Harmen Fort- Company is SpeakLight (see resources for info). Battling depression, anger issues- check that out. Children need to have representation in the classroom- but also in areas that impact the classroom like school boards- so if they don’t have a teacher who looks like them in classroom, they are still represented. Story- Ms. Thornton. Understood that the punitive systems were not working so she got together with the counselor and created a different outlet for Jason- one where he wrote down his feelings and journ

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Use this video to talk to kids about perseverance! #powerfulwords

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🤯 THIS WEEK! I interview Dr. Aliza Pressman on the How to #TalktoKids about Anything podcast and wow!! Got some great nuggets to keep with me at all times. Listen in and walk away with the tools you need to raise good humans. 👈🤔What did Dr. Aliza say here?🤔(1) 🫁🧘‍♂️ Take a breath (this calms YOU!)(2) 💕 Validate the feeling (this ensures they feel heard!)(3) ☝️ Give clear and age-appropriate limits (this helps kids know the boundaries, allows them to feel safe, and gives them permission to go for it!) 🙌🙌🙌👂🏼That sounds like: (1) 🫁 🧘‍♂️ (2) 💕”I get that you are feeling sad and disappointed. It makes sense that you feel that way since you really to stay at the park. It’s fun here! 3) ☝️ We had such a good time and it’s time to leave. Would you like to hop like a bunny 🐰, walk tall like a giraffe 🦒 or have me carry you like a kangaroo 🦘 to our car today?”Listen in wherever you get your podcasts! Such a great interview with Dr. Aliza of @raisinggoodhumanspodcast! Xo,Dr. Robyn#parentingtips #raisinggoodhumans #raisingboys #raisingdaughters #kindkids #takeabreath #podcastersofinstagram #podcaster #consciousparenting #childdevelopment #childdevelopmentspecialist #intentionalparenting #emotionalintelligence #emotionalregulation #drrobynsilverman #alizapressman #goodhuman #raisinggirls #validatefeelings #emotionalbankaccount #breatheinbreatheout #limits #boundariesarehealthy #feelingsquotes #positiveyouthdevelopment

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How to Raise Good Humans with Dr

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Raise Good Humans How do we raise good humans? Parents need to know their North Star, have some good tools and be ready to parent for the long haul. Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews Dr. Aliza Pressman on the How to Talk to Kids about Anything podcast. Special Guest: Aliza Pressman How do we raise good humans? Do some parents just get lucky with easy children or perhaps they have some kind of special superpower to know what to do? Are there steps to follow or specific things to avoid? We probably all know by now from listening to this podcast and reading all the books that have come with it that we can’t yell, hit, or ignore a child into being “good” so what’s the secret sauce? For this, we have invited Dr. Aliza Pressman on the show today. Dr. Aliza is a developmental psychologist with over 15 years of experience working with families. After co-founding SeedlingsGroup and the Mount Sinai Parenting Center, she began the Raising Good Humans Podcast to bring the latest research on child development directly to parents. She’s bringing her expertise and background to listeners every week and starting a new community around evidence-based parenting practices. Dr. Aliza is an Assistant Clinical Professor in the Division of Behavioral Health Department of Pediatrics at Mount Sinai Hospital where she is co-founding director of The Mount Sinai Parenting Center. Important Messages: Figuring out like, what’s your north star? What do you want your kids to say about you or your values when they’re looking back on life, what mattered to you for them and what matters to them. That’s the first thing you need to do so that you always have something to kind of go back to. And then you can say like, in my dealing with this particular challenge, what’s most important? Like in the big picture of things. And if I can figure out lhow is my response aligned with my values, then you can keep yourself from getting swept up in what someone else is saying or pressures from your community that don’t necessarily align with your values or whatever it is. I think the first thing is really just getting to know our mission statement. How is my response aligned with my values? Then you can keep yourself from getting derailed by what others are saying that don’t align with your values. Activity: If you look back, how would you want others to describe you? And then after you’ve just written freely for five minutes, circle the words that stand out for you. It’s a very easy way to find your kind of north star for parenting. What are your top three or four values that you really think, if my kid grows up and has a sense of X, y, and Z, I feel like I did the work I needed to do. Repair relationships- and forgive yourself when you make mistakes. Forcing an apology- meaningless, doesn’t teach you about empathy, just looks like it’s a good thing but it isn’t. You can ask yourself like, am I welcoming the feeling? Okay, I’m naming it. You’re feeling this way. You can validate that feeling. And also all behaviors are not welcome. So okay. We can’t, that’s not something I can let you do, even if you’re feeling this way. Problem? (1) Name what is observed. (2) What can you do to make things better? (3) I did something that hurt someone else. Not shaming. You did something hurtful. What can you do to make someone feel better? Expand empathy. Might be delayed for a day. Recurring: What is setting them up to fail? Maybe not ready for that situation? Throwing sand- not ready for the sand box. Prep in advance. “Remember we keep the sand in the sandbox. We can’t throw it at other people, when we want to throw it, throw it outside of the bucket into the sandbox.” Get comfortable, “you’re not ready for that.” Parent for the long haul. What do you want for your child to learn for the long haul? This is such a long game. These little minutia moments are not meaningful themselves. They’re just laying the groundwork for wiring a different way of responding. And so it’s just so nice to remember- this is a moment. It didn’t go well- we have many other ones. And if our response continues to be in that north star area of this is aligned with my hopes and dreams for this child, I think it works out. Big thing lift from parents- is it is so hard and also it’s not that complicated. So there’s just like the same answer to almost everything is really hard to believe. It’s hard to believe that it’s like validate the feeling, make sure that you’ve taken that breath, validate the feeling and give specific and clear limits that are appropriate for their age and temperament. Containerize – most complicated question or the most simple question and the answer is pretty much the same. If parents could believe that challenging feelings are not the end of the world, and that actually knowing that there is temporary as our happy feelings, we would be a lot more confident as parents

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How to Talk to Kids about Money Values, Spending & Giving with Chelsea Brennan – ReReleas

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Money Values, Spending &Giving This podcast focuses on teaching kids and talking to kids about money values and money mindset. How do we help kids to understand how to save, spend and give? What money stories and money beliefs are we passing forward and what do we want them to learn or relearn? And how do we leave a money legacy that sets them up for success? Dr. Robyn Silverman speaks with Chelsea Brennan during this money episode of How to Talk to Kids about Anything. Special Guest: Chelsea Brennan Many parents believe that money is another taboo topic that we just don’t discuss. After all, there is a lot of emotion, status, privilege and judgment tied up with money that make it a topic that can be triggering to many. But when you think about it- where are kids learningabout money these days? Many only see the swipe of a credit card & the magic of online shopping- where we press some buttons and we walk out with stuff—or better yet, it appears at our door or in our mailbox! We know this isn’t how it works- and it’s important to teach our kids about money- what we value, what we might be saving for, what we choose to spend money on, which charities we may give money to and what seems frivolous, unnecessary or even counter-productive. But how do we talk to our kids about our family money values, goals and choices- and how can we help set them up with the knowledge, skills and understanding so that they know how to handle money when they need to make important financial decisions later in life? Today we’ll talk to Chelsea Brennan for some answers. BIO Chelsea Brennan is the founder of Smart Money Mamas and its monthly membership community, the Motivated Mama Society. An ex-hedge fund manager turned financial educator, she is dedicated to changing the way we talk about money, helping moms connect with all aspects of their money in a way that lets them overcome emotional blocks, identify what they most want, and create the healthy money habits that help them achieve their biggest goals– All while modeling positive money relationships for the next generation. Chelsea lives in Connecticut with her husband (a rockstar stay-at-home dad) and two young and energetic boys. Important Messages: We all have baggage around money. There’s a great deal of emotion when it comes to money. We can get a fight or flight response from dealing with it! Think about biases so we don’t inadvertently pass them on to our kids. Questions: Dive into your money memory—ie., how did you feel when yourmother/brothers came to borrow money from you? What language did your dad have with you when you found the money on the ground? It’s those little pieces of the puzzle that builds the whole picture. Generational story: What do we pass on? “We are a family who never has money. We never have enough. Every time I have some money, someone takes it, an emergency.” We internalize the narrative. Even if we don’t consciously recognize it, our brain is looking for reasons to prove that story. Most core money memories are set around age 7. We get curious about money. Compare. We hear things from parents. One little statement- in our child’s brain- can make a big impression and we go on for decades looking for ways to prove that narrative. We want to understand our narrative because it might be contradictory to our other values! We want to pass on values we truly appreciate and believe in. Family Money Values: (1) What do we stand for? Family time? Philanthropy? Education? Travel? Do this first- because every time we sit down with money, we are voting with our dollars. We are putting in our time, effort and money into the world. When we are clear of values we can take more agency over how we spend our money. (2) When we are clear on our family values, when child asks for toy that is against the declared values (i.e. violent video game), when we develop a narrative of what is most important to us as a family, it’s not just saying no, it’s referring to value—“remember we talked about our top value as ________, I don’t think this aligns with ________ value. How do you think this fits in with who we are as a family? Family Money Values sheet. Education, curiosity, environmentalism. Core money beliefs- also need to have partner voice his money values and history. “We talk about money at our Friday night meeting.” You know the time and place so it gets covered but isn’t triggering. What is your history of money? How do you want your relationship with money to be? “We have the skills and resources to make all the money we’ll ever need.” Security seeker. Want a feeling of abundance so that you aren’t always seeking- you have all the money you’ll ever need. Pass that on to children. “When we save for the future, we are protecting our future selves.” Thinking forward is hard for little kids! Saving feels like taking money away from

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