Helping Kids Understand Trustworthiness| DrRobynSilverman |October 2023 | Powerful Words

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ✅ IMPORTANT LINKS: 👉 https://www.powerfulwords.com/ ✅ Stay Connected With Me: 👉 WebSite: https://www.drrobynsilverman.com/ 👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drrobynsilverman 👉 TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@bigtalkswithkids 👉 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/DrRobyn 👉 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drrobynsilverman/ ============================== ✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman As Body Image Expert: How Barbie Dolls Can Impact Young Women | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_S5BXoUL-8 👉 Fighting Weight Obsession: Good Girls Don't Get Fat - Preview Of The Book | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmxq4VfA6LU 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman's Expert Insights On Body Image On The Tyra Show | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fp5hFoF65EU 👉 The Risks of "2 Sexy 2 Soon" - Dr. Robyn Silverman Shares Parenting Insights on Good Morning America https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8DJUi4Z7qU ============================= ✅ About Dr. Robyn Silverman : Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman is an internationally recognized speaker, author, success coach & educator on Parenting, Character Education and Body Image She has been featured on numerous TV shows, including The Today Show and Good Morning America, and has contributed to various publications such as The Washington Post and Parents Magazine. With a Ph.D. in Child and Adolescent Development, Dr. Silverman specializes in teaching social-emotional skills and character education to parents, teachers, and children. She has authored several books, including "Good Girls Don't Get Fat" and "How to Talk to Kids About Anything" 📩 Email: DrRobyn@DrRobynSilverman.com 🔔 Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ===================== #childdevelopment #parentingtips #expertadvice #confidencebuilding #positiveparenting #emotionalintelligence Disclaimer: We do not accept any liability for any loss or damage which is incurred from you acting or not acting as a result of reading any of our publications. You acknowledge that you use the information we provide at your own risk. Do your own research. Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use © Dr. Robyn Silverman

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How to Talk to Kids about Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace

How to Talk to Kids about Toxic Achievement Culture Together, let’s unravel the complexities of modern academia and discover how parental guidance can make a transformative difference in your child’s life. Join Dr. Robyn as she explores insightful strategies, heartfelt stories, and expert advice from award-winning journalist and author Jennifer Wallace. Guest Expert: Jennifer Wallace We’re probably all felt it—this ever-more competitive race that today’s students run each day towards the best possible future—feeling the crushing pressure to do more, more, more, jamming their schedules full of resume-padding activities, AP classes, tutoring and whatever else that can give them an edge over the rest so that they can get into the right colleges, that gets them on the right path towards the right future. At the same time, we have skyrocketing rates of anxiety, depression, self-harm and more—is it possible to help kids strive towards excellence without having the process crush them while on their way? For this, we are speaking with Jennifer Wallace. Jennifer Wallace is an award-wining journalist and contributor to the Wall Street Journal and the Washington Post. She lives in NY with her husband and their teen teenagers—and she has a new book, out August 22, called “Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic- And What We Can Do About It.” Important Message: • Who were the students who were thriving despite the pressure in their environment? What was their home life like? What did their parents focus on? What were their relationships like with their peers, with their teachers at school in the larger community? — I found about 14 or 15 common threads. The kids who were thriving had this high level of mattering. • Mattering:Mattering was first conceptualized in the 1980s by Morris Rosenberg. He at the time in the eighties found that students who enjoyed a high level of a healthy level of self-esteem also felt like they mattered to their parents, that they were important and significant. • Make them feel valued: The idea of feeling valued for who you are at your core, by your family, friends, community, and then being depended on add meaningful value back to your family, to your friends, to your communities. • They still were anxious. They had setbacks, they would be down, but mattering acted like a buoy and lifted them up. They were able to bounce back faster. • The kids who seemed struggle the most were kids who felt like their mattering was contingent on their performance. They absorbed the messages from their parents that they mattered, but they were never depended on or relied on to add value back to anyone other than themselves. • The kids who lacked social proof that they mattered. They got the words, but they didn’t see an impact of how their life impacts others. It set them up to be so self-focused that their entire self-esteem and self-worth sort of rode on their ups and downs of their lives. • Children need to know that they’re needed and that they make an impact on the family well-being. • Involve them: “Can you guys help me solve this?” “What is it that we need?” “Why are the shoes not going in the closet?” It was a simple little thing, but it had an impact. They feel like they matter and then they get the proof that they matter, which then feeds their mattering. • Make your home a Safe Haven:Our kids today are so bombarded with messages of achievement on social media in the classroom. They read it on the news, the emphasis of getting into certain colleges. There is such an emphasis day in and day out on achievement that home needs to be a place to recover. • Home can’t be another place where kids are feeling like they’re being dragged to excellence. Minimize criticism, prioritize affection. • What caused mental health struggles among these youth was perceived criticism from parents. It might not even be that we think were being outwardly scolding and criticizing, but even subtle things are taken as

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How to Talk to Kids about Being Good Humans Everyday with Hunter Clarke Fields

How to Talk to Kids about Being Good Humans Everyday How can we remain mindful when we are rushing around and doing so much as parents? Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews best-selling author, Hunter Clarke Fields, on the How to Talk to Kids about Anything podcast. Hunter’s new book, Raising Good Humans Everyday, is featured Guest Expert: Hunter Clarke Fields As parents, we often think about the big things we’ve done with our kids—the trips, the outings, which school we chose, and wonder, have I done enough? But it’s the little things we do each day that really make the difference. While we are rushing around, and express frustration or may yell or melt down ourselves, because we are human—we may need some extra tools to help us parent with intention. And we get to receive those tools today by the amazing Hunter Clarke Fields who is on our show for the second time with her new book, Raising Good Humans Everyday. Hunter Clarke-Fields is a Mindfulness Mentor, Mindful Mama Podcast Host, Mom, Global Speaker, and Number 1 Bestselling Author of “Raising Good Humans” with a New Book: “Raising Good Humans Every Day” (Aug 1, 2023). Hunter has over 20 years of experience in meditation and yoga practices, and helps moms bring more calm and family cooperation into their daily lives. She is a Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, the creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training, and has taught mindfulness to thousands worldwide, including a recent trip to Egypt. Hunter presents talks on parenting, is a certified teacher of Parent Effectiveness Training. In addition, Hunter coaches smart, accomplished, over-stressed individuals on how to cultivate mindfulness. Hunter is the mother of two active daughters, who challenge her every day to hone her craft! Her work has appeared in CNBC Make It, Parade, Paleontology, Motherhood Moment, The Hollywood Digest, along with on ABC Portland, NBC Milwaukee, and CBS South Bend, Kansas Public Radio, and many podcasts. And as part of her self-care, Hunter likes to do Scottish country dancing. Learn more about Hunter at https://MindfulMamaMentor.com Important Message: • MINDFULNESS: Mindfulness is a parental brain hack that we’re not utilizing to the degree that we can. Mindfulness is kind of like the non-reactive muscle. It’s like going to the gym of your mind to be less reactive! • WHO: It’s utilized by surgeons, active-duty military personnel, people in prisons and CEOs, people with very high stress environments for a reason because it really helps us to learn to calm or regulate ourselves in a high stress environment and be able to tolerate some of the challenges and difficulties of a high stress environment. • WHAT IT DOES: It helps us with the sensations and feelings in our body. • NOT ON AUTOPILOT: Normal to react on autopilot. Our stress response system is finally honed by millennia to keep us safe and alive, but is not so helpful and a lot of times in parenting when we want to actually slow down and use our whole brain. and, you know, • MINDFULNESS PRACTICE: Mindfulness practice in brain scans show that it actually makes the prefrontal cortex, which is the area involved with executive function, impulse control, problem solving ability, verbal ability, all the things we need to parent. • BRAIN SCANS: Mindfulness makes the prefrontal cortex thicker and stronger. And makes the amygdala, which are these two little almond shaped clusters in our brainstem that are our, like, “oh crap” centers of the brain, the centers of our fight flight or freeze stress response, and makes them shrink- connectivity between the amygdala and the rest of the nervous system shrink as well. So it’s literally reshaping the brain.. • PROCESS: I’m sitting there and all kinds of normal stuff is coming up. I have an idea, I think of things I need to do later, or maybe some, I sense some anxiety arising. I notice all kinds of things and I just practice sitting with it and observing it. So then when you get to a moment

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