Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Beating the Odds, Acceptance &True Self Worth What is to come for a child who is told he is garbage? Worthless? Beaten to the ground? I have often said that children who have the love, kindness and acceptance of an adult—or several adults—can be the difference. As you might remember me saying, Search Institute found that many young people don’t feel that they have at least 3 key adults to turn to in a time of need and challenge. Our next guest had a very hard start to his life—abused by his father and watching his mother and siblings meet that same fate. He survived the streets of Kampala Uganda and, due to the potential that someone saw in him- wound up going to school and altering his life for the better in every possible way. My next guest will help us to understand how to talk to kids about acceptance and true self-worth. He has a remarkable story. Special guest: Peter Mutabazi What is to come for a child who is told he is garbage? Worthless? Beaten to the ground? I have often said that children who have the love, kindness and acceptance of an adult—or several adults—can be the difference. As you might remember me saying, Search Institute found that many young people don’t feel that they have at least 3 key adults to turn to in a time of need and challenge. Our next guest had a very hard start to his life—abused by his father and watching his mother and siblings meet that same fate. He survived the streets of Kampala Uganda and, due to the potential that someone saw in him- wound up going to school and altering his life for the better in every possible way. My next guest will help us to understand how to talk to kids about acceptance and true self-worth. He has a remarkable story. Peter Mutabazi is an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources to encourage and affirm children. A single father and foster dad, Mutabazi is a former street kid who has worked for World Vision, Compassion International, and the Red Cross. He has appeared on media outlets such as the BBC and The TODAY Show and continues to be a passionate speaker. He currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. For more information visit: www.nowiamknown.com and follow Peter @fosterdadflipper. He has a book out right now called Now I am Known. Important Messages: It begins with me like a stranger who did not know me. A stranger who had never seen me before. We didn’t speak the same language. We didn’t look alike. But somehow saw potential in me. And so for me, what lights me up is when I see potential in others. I feel that I can impact on the children and the entire bio family as well. From a very early age, I had to understand that there was no life for me. That there was no hope. I knew my chances of survival were very, very small. No food. So that was the first hurdle that I really had to deal with, you know as a kid. And the abuse too. So not only the misery and hopelessness was lack of food and going to work as a kid at a very early age. I mean, at four I could go fetch water three miles away. But while you’re getting to fetch water, that’s where you get to meet the other kids who abuse you. Then coming home and having a dad who didn’t see any positive in anything you did, you know the moment he saw you, you garbage, ‘you stupid boy,’ ‘what are you doing here?’ My own father was my worst enemy. You also had to endure watching your mother get abused. Your mother had to endure watching you getting abused, and you didn’t hold that against her because if she came to rescue you, then she would’ve been abused again. There was an understanding between the two of you that unfortunately this was the reality, and there was that hopelessness. There was just part of the reality. Then you escaped. You had to endure some, some hardships, but also you got a sense of family and freedom at the same time. I think the hardest part as kids was a forced diet to kids is the guilt. Most of my abuse for my mother was the guilt because she was fighting for you to have a meal- she got a beating for that. Or she wanted us to be able to go to school. So as a 3, 5, 10 year old watching your mom trying to advocate for you, but she’s getting punished for that, that guilt is what is the hardest part to deal with. Running away wasn’t like I was looking for a better life. It was more of, I know he’s gonna kill me, but why give him the joy of killing me? I’d rather, you know. So for me, it was more of I’m gonna run and I would rather die in the hands of a stranger, you know? The only way you can get food when you are away from family is by stealing it. I looked at myself as garbage. Developed a relationship with a man named James who wanted to put you into a boarding school. At first, didn’t trust him—kind humans actually meant abuse. Danger. But I waited for t
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