Dr. Robyn Silverman: June 2023

Tuesday, 27 June 2023

Building Indomitable Spirit in Kids | Dr Robyn Silverman (Powerful Words Character Development)

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ✅ IMPORTANT LINKS: 👉 https://www.powerfulwords.com/ ✅ Stay Connected With Me: 👉 WebSite: https://www.drrobynsilverman.com/ 👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drrobynsilverman 👉 TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@bigtalkswithkids 👉 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/DrRobyn 👉 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drrobynsilverman/ ============================== ✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman As Body Image Expert: How Barbie Dolls Can Impact Young Women | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_S5BXoUL-8 👉 Fighting Weight Obsession: Good Girls Don't Get Fat - Preview Of The Book | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmxq4VfA6LU 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman's Expert Insights On Body Image On The Tyra Show | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fp5hFoF65EU 👉 The Risks of "2 Sexy 2 Soon" - Dr. Robyn Silverman Shares Parenting Insights on Good Morning America https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8DJUi4Z7qU ============================= ✅ About Dr. Robyn Silverman : Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman is an internationally recognized speaker, author, success coach & educator on Parenting, Character Education and Body Image She has been featured on numerous TV shows, including The Today Show and Good Morning America, and has contributed to various publications such as The Washington Post and Parents Magazine. With a Ph.D. in Child and Adolescent Development, Dr. Silverman specializes in teaching social-emotional skills and character education to parents, teachers, and children. She has authored several books, including "Good Girls Don't Get Fat" and "The Power of Words: What We Say Matters. 📩 Email: DrRobyn@DrRobynSilverman.com 🔔 Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ===================== #childdevelopment #parentingtips #expertadvice #confidencebuilding #positiveparenting #emotionalintelligence Disclaimer: We do not accept any liability for any loss or damage which is incurred from you acting or not acting as a result of reading any of our publications. You acknowledge that you use the information we provide at your own risk. Do your own research. Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use © Dr. Robyn Silverman

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How to help kids understand Indomitable Spirit| DrRobynSilverman | Ask Dr. Robyn July 2023

Wednesday, 21 June 2023

ONE of us is hard on the PowerSkills program for teachers coaches and leaders! The other not so mu

ONE of us is hard on the PowerSkills program for teachers, coaches and leaders! The other, not so much. 🐶

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How to Talk to Kids about Managing Childhood Grief with Katie Lear LCMHC RDT RPT

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Managing Childhood Grief In this podcast, Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Katie Lear, about how we can help kids to manage childhood grief. Using specially-designed activities and discussion points, children can open up about a variety of feelings and learn that they can confide in us about the tough stuff- even when it’s hard to hear. Childhood is supposed to be filled with good times and laughs—but of course, some children may experience a significant loss during their childhood or adolescence. It’s actually more common than you might think. According to the Childhood Bereavement Estimation Model, as of 2021, one in 14 American children will experience the death of a parent or sibling before the age of 18. Still, it’s not easy to talk about grief with adults, let alone kids—but as the key adults in our children’s lives, we need to be able to step in and navigate the thoughts and feelings that they are experiencing as they cope with their loss. They likely will have many questions when a grandparent, parent, sibling, or other close family member or friend dies. They might wonder if they are at fault if they are safe and who will make their grilled cheese sandwich and take them to soccer if the person who passed away was the one who did those things for them. When we shut down, don’t talk about grief and death with kids or make the mistake of assuming if they aren’t talking about it, they must be fine, kids can wind up filling in their questions with their own answers based on misunderstandings and incorrect information. We need to help them get the conversation going through a variety of techniques that allows them (and also us!) to manage grief in productive ways. We’ve discussed talking about death and grief with Joe Primo, in the past, and we’ve talked about suicide with Dr. Dan Reidenberg and Dr. Jonathan Singer—and now we will discuss grief through a new lens with Katie Lear who uses child-friendly activities to comfort kids and help them to overcome sadness, fear, and loss. Katie Lear is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Registered Drama Therapist, and Registered Play Therapist based in North Carolina. She combines creative play with research-based tools to help children, tweens, and teens cope with anxiety and trauma. Katie brings her expert knowledge to her new book, A Parent’s Guide to Managing Childhood Grief, as she walks through important topics like how different children grieve, how to talk about death, and what signs to look out for during the grieving process. And today, we’ll also discuss the tools you need to connect with your child and move toward healing and acceptance as a family when your child is grieving a significant loss. Important Messages: • Grief: It’s not all heavy, even when the subject is heavy. • Topics are hard to discuss- and if we can’t talk about them as adults, how are we going to talk about them with kids? • How children grieve: Grief can look different both in age and in development, because we know too that, two 12 year olds can be very different in terms of where they’re at maturity wise. I think knowing how children grieve is really helpful because it doesn’t always look the way thaewe would expect. For a long time, like in the Freudian days and a little bit after, there was this assumption that children were not capable of grieving! Assumption: they didn’t have the psychological maturity yet to really understand what death is. But we know now that even little children who haven’t fully figured out conceptually what death means in a permanent way still can grieve the loss of somebody in their life. • Preschoolers: They can use play to talk about their loss. Children this age really have a hard time grasping that death is a permanent state. They may have some understanding of death, but it’s coming from cartoons, it’s coming from movies, it’s coming from Disney. So they may have beliefs or images that come to mind about death for them that are not totally accurate. Children this age may ask repeatedly when a loved one is coming back because they are not old enough yet to really grasp that death is permanent. And you may see that grief coming out in behavior and coming out in play– hard time putting their feelings into words– but we might see it come out through reenacting scenes in play or by regressing. We’ll often see kids that age acting younger and picking up habits from earlier developmental stages as a way of trying to feel more secure. So that could look like having a hard time sleeping alone, potty training issues, thumb sucking. • And then as the kids are getting older and they have more of an understanding of what death is, grief can still look different. Major rollercoaster. And I, I often hear from people like, they were fine a moment ago and then they were not fine. And I, I don’t kno

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Thursday, 15 June 2023

How to Organize your Life so You Can Bring Out the Best in Your Child and You with Julie Morgenstern

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Organize your Life so You Can Bring Out the Best in Your Child and You This podcast will focus on how to organize your time, as a parent, so that we can shift our attention from trying to “have it all” to getting it right in the moment. When parents can learn how to balance their abilities to provide, arrange, relate and teach— and know when to go all out, when to ask for help, when to delegate and what only that parent can do, everyone will feel more fulfilled and calm even when life gets crazy. Time management is good for everyone involved— and understanding that short bursts of undivided attention might be the secret to calming the chaos. Parents have struggled with how to manage their time for generations. There is so much to do— so much to balance! In the age of extracurriculars— from travel baseball, soccer, gymnastics, piano, to tutoring classes, art and enrichment, the question of how to fit everything in, complete the car pool, get dinner on the table, help with homework, get to the store, get some work done, give your kids undivided attention—and still take care of yourself—seems nearly impossible. How do we do this? DO we do all of this? To hold our hands and help us all shift from having it all to getting it right in the moment— is best-selling author, Julie Morgenstern. Julie Morgenstern is the author of Time to Parent, and five previous books, including the New York Times bestsellers Organizing from the Inside Out and Time Management from the Inside Out. She is an internationally renowned organization consultant and sought after speaker who has shared her expertise on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, and more. Julie has helped thousands of people transform their homes, businesses, and attitudes about every kind of clutter. The New York City-based Julie Morgenstern Enterprises has been successfully in business for over 25 years. The podcast provides: Why we need a job description as a parent What the job description should be How the job description can inform out to-do list and how we can apply this framework What the principle of Max-Min-Mod means and how it can help us Tips to minimize stress and overwhelm How to cope with the “one-more-thing” tendency How to incorporate “me-time” into your day and why this is important Important Messages: Parenting— time stretched years. Conflicting priorities. Parents often don’t know the edges of the job— how do you divide your time? What do you do? The job feels ambiguous. We need a parenting job description to see where the edges are, where strengths are, where the holes are. Then you can adapt and adjust. We all gravitate away from the things we don’t feel good at doing and towards the things where we feel more confident. Some want to be the opposite of their parents so they compensate in the other direction. Job description: Provide, arrange, relate, teach. Many parents high on provide and arrange and low relate and teach. Provide and arrange take more time. The parenting job is bigger than any one human can do. We think we should and can do it all. We need to delegate. Women have the lion share of “arrange.” But it’s the most delectable skills/tasks. Nobody can take your place in “relate.” Who doesn’t want to hear from their parent that they matter? You don’t have to do it all to be likable and worthy. The enemy to efficiency is perfectionism. There is not time to do everything perfectly. For any task on your list that threatens to monopolize your time. Define three levels of performance. What does perfect look like? What’s the minimum I can do that still gets the job done? The middle is the moderate. You can still achieve the goal— but with three levels of performance. Watch feeling like you need to do “one more thing.” You need relationship, connection and joy during the parenting years— it’s not all about one more thing! You’ll miss the pleasure. We create guilt when we take self time. This is about being a human being. Also- kids mimic what you see. You need to model happy, healthy human! You are to gaining anything by depriving yourself of sleep and doing one more thing. Sleep can not be your only form of self care. Two things that keep us from practicing self care is guilt and our approach. Smaller packets of time, frequently delivered rather than small blocks of time, delivered occasionally. Short bursts. The couples who had the strongest marriages while raising kids mastered these short bursts and brief check ins with their spouses. Daily glue. Three to 5 times during the day- they’d check in with the other. They were caught up during the day. They also limited the conversations around logistics- arrange. They’d do this in email. Then “arrange” didn’t take over facetime. None requires large packets of time. Make sure you are having fun— reading a book, painting, sitting still, getting a manicure, garden. It’s n

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Wednesday, 7 June 2023

🤔Can you relate? Drop a ❤️ if this hits: Does your kid (or you) have a negative voice inside their h

🤔Can you relate? Drop a ❤️ if this hits: Does your kid (or you) have a negative voice inside their heads telling them they aren’t enough? 💕 👉Show this video to your kids! How do we #talktokids about the negative “I am” that can STICK because of someone else’s words and insecurities they put on you? Gary Vaynerchuk recently posted a video about this “you suck” voice. Here are 5 ways you (and your child) can combat it!We can talk about:#1️⃣ What is your “I am” statement? “I am ugly,” “I am stupid,” “I am not enough.” Shine high beams on it and bring it out of the shadows of your head.#2️⃣ Who’s voice is that? Who told you that or made you feel that way? An old coach? A teacher? A family member? A classmate? Call that voice by name!#3️⃣ What advantage did that person gain by making you feel inferior? What hurt does it reveal in them? #4️⃣ Replace the “I am” with the truth. Let’s look at the evidence- what is actually true about you? “I am brave.” “I am beautiful.” “I am insightful.”#5️⃣ Bathe your environment in people and reminders of your true “I am.” Put sticky notes up on the mirror. Be around people who tell you the true, positive force you are. Say it yourself until your ears hear it and your brain knows it. Detail the evidence that tells you what you are saying is the truth. Tell me about your conversations with your kids about self-esteem and negative voices that try to squash the truth about theit identity. An identity is a terrible thing to waste. Can’t wait to hear about it! Tell me in the comments!Xo,Dr. RobynPS My forthcoming book, “How to Talk to Kids about Anything” is available for presale anywhere books are sold. I devote a whole chapter to self-esteem, confidence and body image, Got questions? This book has answers! Would be honored if you bought it. Xo- Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman #positivethinking #negativity #negativethoughts #impostersyndrome #parentingtips #youareenough #negativeenergy #IAM #momlife #forthcoming #garyvee #garyveechallenge #drrobynsilverman #powerfulwords #powerofpositivity

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How to Talk to Kids about Transgender People with Carolyn Hays

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Transgender People Imagine getting a knock on your door from someone who could derail your whole life and take away your child. That knock came for my next guest—not because she was abusing or neglecting her child, actually, quite the opposite- it was because she was listening and responding to her child in the most loving way possible. She was allowing her child to live life as the gender she felt she was—a girl. The topic of transgender youth has been contentious, to say the least. From the outside, when the person looking in is cis gender—meaning you were say, born and labeled a girl at birth and, you feel like a girl, it can be hard to imagine that some people don’t feel that alignment. The only way that I feel like we can really explain that is to switch it– for you to imagine that other people are referring to you, if you are a girl or a woman, as a boy or a man—with pronouns that reflect that, names that reflect that and you keep saying, but that’s not who I am! Some kids know from a very young age that they are not the gender they were assigned at birth. And it’s important to listen to this—because transgender people can have a very high suicide rate- a very high rate of being bullied, attacked, even murdered. Trans women, because they must contend with a profound amount of discrimination, also are at high risk of alcoholism, poverty, homelessness and lack of good healthcare. The solution is not fixing the transgender person but rather, acceptance. Let’s talk about it with my next guest who has personal experience with her own transgender child. Guest Expert: Carolyn Hays Imagine getting a knock on your door from someone who could derail your whole life and take away your child. That knock came for my next guest—not because she was abusing or neglecting her child, actually, quite the opposite- it was because she was listening and responding to her child in the most loving way possible. She was allowing her child to live life as the gender she felt she was—a girl. The topic of transgender youth has been contentious, to say the least. From the outside, when the person looking in is cis gender—meaning you were say, born and labeled a girl at birth and, you feel like a girl, it can be hard to imagine that some people don’t feel that alignment. The only way that I feel like we can really explain that is to switch it– for you to imagine that other people are referring to you, if you are a girl or a woman, as a boy or a man—with pronouns that reflect that, names that reflect that and you keep saying, but that’s not who I am! Some kids know from a very young age that they are not the gender they were assigned at birth. And it’s important to listen to this—because transgender people can have a very high suicide rate- a very high rate of being bullied, attacked, even murdered. Trans women, because they must contend with a profound amount of discrimination, also are at high risk of alcoholism, poverty, homelessness and lack of good healthcare. The solution is not fixing the transgender person but rather, acceptance. Let’s talk about it with my next guest who has personal experience with her own transgender child. Carolyn Hays is an award-winning, critically acclaimed, bestselling author who has chosen to publish A Girlhood: Letter to My Transgender Daughter under a pen name to protect the privacy of her family. Her novels have been published by Hachette, Simon and Schuster, and HarperCollins; her books are also widely translated. A Girlhood will have four overseas editions, including those by Picador UK and Flammarion in France. Her past books have been listed as New York Times Notable Books of the Year and Kirkus’s Best Fiction of the Year, and she’s written for National Public Radio and the Washington Post. Important Messages: There was this kind of violent contraction and then, you know and a real targeting of trans people especially when the Trump administration came in, but you know, down to the governor of Texas this past spring making it a law to investigate all parents who support their transgender kids to investigate them for child abuse. So we, you know, the, the book as I was, as I was writing it and working on it has suddenly become more and more urgent. Our daughter was, as they say, persistent, consistent and acute. All of her expression, (well, at that point we were using male pronouns,) but all of her expression was, was female. All of her play was female. But she was getting in arguments at school as a really young kid, like pre-K, telling her teachers that she was a girl telling the other students that she was a girl. If she would hear me talking to my mom using male pronouns, she would, you know, you know, shout out, ‘I’m a girl.’ My daughter was actually very much understanding her gender and hitting all those markers in childhood development. It just was surprising becaus

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