Helping Kids Understand Trustworthiness| DrRobynSilverman |October 2023 | Powerful Words

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How to Talk to Kids about Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace

How to Talk to Kids about Toxic Achievement Culture Together, let’s unravel the complexities of modern academia and discover how parental guidance can make a transformative difference in your child’s life. Join Dr. Robyn as she explores insightful strategies, heartfelt stories, and expert advice from award-winning journalist and author Jennifer Wallace. Guest Expert: Jennifer Wallace We’re probably all felt it—this ever-more competitive race that today’s students run each day towards the best possible future—feeling the crushing pressure to do more, more, more, jamming their schedules full of resume-padding activities, AP classes, tutoring and whatever else that can give them an edge over the rest so that they can get into the right colleges, that gets them on the right path towards the right future. At the same time, we have skyrocketing rates of anxiety, depression, self-harm and more—is it possible to help kids strive towards excellence without having the process crush them while on their way? For this, we are speaking with Jennifer Wallace. Jennifer Wallace is an award-wining journalist and contributor to the Wall Street Journal and the Washington Post. She lives in NY with her husband and their teen teenagers—and she has a new book, out August 22, called “Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic- And What We Can Do About It.” Important Message: • Who were the students who were thriving despite the pressure in their environment? What was their home life like? What did their parents focus on? What were their relationships like with their peers, with their teachers at school in the larger community? — I found about 14 or 15 common threads. The kids who were thriving had this high level of mattering. • Mattering:Mattering was first conceptualized in the 1980s by Morris Rosenberg. He at the time in the eighties found that students who enjoyed a high level of a healthy level of self-esteem also felt like they mattered to their parents, that they were important and significant. • Make them feel valued: The idea of feeling valued for who you are at your core, by your family, friends, community, and then being depended on add meaningful value back to your family, to your friends, to your communities. • They still were anxious. They had setbacks, they would be down, but mattering acted like a buoy and lifted them up. They were able to bounce back faster. • The kids who seemed struggle the most were kids who felt like their mattering was contingent on their performance. They absorbed the messages from their parents that they mattered, but they were never depended on or relied on to add value back to anyone other than themselves. • The kids who lacked social proof that they mattered. They got the words, but they didn’t see an impact of how their life impacts others. It set them up to be so self-focused that their entire self-esteem and self-worth sort of rode on their ups and downs of their lives. • Children need to know that they’re needed and that they make an impact on the family well-being. • Involve them: “Can you guys help me solve this?” “What is it that we need?” “Why are the shoes not going in the closet?” It was a simple little thing, but it had an impact. They feel like they matter and then they get the proof that they matter, which then feeds their mattering. • Make your home a Safe Haven:Our kids today are so bombarded with messages of achievement on social media in the classroom. They read it on the news, the emphasis of getting into certain colleges. There is such an emphasis day in and day out on achievement that home needs to be a place to recover. • Home can’t be another place where kids are feeling like they’re being dragged to excellence. Minimize criticism, prioritize affection. • What caused mental health struggles among these youth was perceived criticism from parents. It might not even be that we think were being outwardly scolding and criticizing, but even subtle things are taken as

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How to Talk to Kids about Being Good Humans Everyday with Hunter Clarke Fields

How to Talk to Kids about Being Good Humans Everyday How can we remain mindful when we are rushing around and doing so much as parents? Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews best-selling author, Hunter Clarke Fields, on the How to Talk to Kids about Anything podcast. Hunter’s new book, Raising Good Humans Everyday, is featured Guest Expert: Hunter Clarke Fields As parents, we often think about the big things we’ve done with our kids—the trips, the outings, which school we chose, and wonder, have I done enough? But it’s the little things we do each day that really make the difference. While we are rushing around, and express frustration or may yell or melt down ourselves, because we are human—we may need some extra tools to help us parent with intention. And we get to receive those tools today by the amazing Hunter Clarke Fields who is on our show for the second time with her new book, Raising Good Humans Everyday. Hunter Clarke-Fields is a Mindfulness Mentor, Mindful Mama Podcast Host, Mom, Global Speaker, and Number 1 Bestselling Author of “Raising Good Humans” with a New Book: “Raising Good Humans Every Day” (Aug 1, 2023). Hunter has over 20 years of experience in meditation and yoga practices, and helps moms bring more calm and family cooperation into their daily lives. She is a Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, the creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training, and has taught mindfulness to thousands worldwide, including a recent trip to Egypt. Hunter presents talks on parenting, is a certified teacher of Parent Effectiveness Training. In addition, Hunter coaches smart, accomplished, over-stressed individuals on how to cultivate mindfulness. Hunter is the mother of two active daughters, who challenge her every day to hone her craft! Her work has appeared in CNBC Make It, Parade, Paleontology, Motherhood Moment, The Hollywood Digest, along with on ABC Portland, NBC Milwaukee, and CBS South Bend, Kansas Public Radio, and many podcasts. And as part of her self-care, Hunter likes to do Scottish country dancing. Learn more about Hunter at https://MindfulMamaMentor.com Important Message: • MINDFULNESS: Mindfulness is a parental brain hack that we’re not utilizing to the degree that we can. Mindfulness is kind of like the non-reactive muscle. It’s like going to the gym of your mind to be less reactive! • WHO: It’s utilized by surgeons, active-duty military personnel, people in prisons and CEOs, people with very high stress environments for a reason because it really helps us to learn to calm or regulate ourselves in a high stress environment and be able to tolerate some of the challenges and difficulties of a high stress environment. • WHAT IT DOES: It helps us with the sensations and feelings in our body. • NOT ON AUTOPILOT: Normal to react on autopilot. Our stress response system is finally honed by millennia to keep us safe and alive, but is not so helpful and a lot of times in parenting when we want to actually slow down and use our whole brain. and, you know, • MINDFULNESS PRACTICE: Mindfulness practice in brain scans show that it actually makes the prefrontal cortex, which is the area involved with executive function, impulse control, problem solving ability, verbal ability, all the things we need to parent. • BRAIN SCANS: Mindfulness makes the prefrontal cortex thicker and stronger. And makes the amygdala, which are these two little almond shaped clusters in our brainstem that are our, like, “oh crap” centers of the brain, the centers of our fight flight or freeze stress response, and makes them shrink- connectivity between the amygdala and the rest of the nervous system shrink as well. So it’s literally reshaping the brain.. • PROCESS: I’m sitting there and all kinds of normal stuff is coming up. I have an idea, I think of things I need to do later, or maybe some, I sense some anxiety arising. I notice all kinds of things and I just practice sitting with it and observing it. So then when you get to a moment

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How to Talk to Kids about their Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about their Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell This podcast episode highlights the “superpowers” middle schoolers can develop in order to best navigate their journey in middle school. Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews licensed clinical professional counselor, Phyllis Fagell. Special guest: Phyllis Fagell The tween years are turbulent times for many. Research tells us that those kids who thrive have strong connections, show resilience, ask for help when it’s needed and set realistic and challenging goals for themselves. How do we, as parents and educators help them to thrive? Do we need to coddle, bulldoze and pave the way? No. Tweens are more capable than you think. In fact, my next guest writes, in her new book, Middle School Superpowers, tells us that “middle schoolers and superheroes have a lot in common.” We learn that while both these groups get catapulted into an unknown and tumultuous world, they also can develop superpowers that allow them to navigate this jarring journey if we are both there for them and give them room to soar. Phyllis Fagell, back on the show for a second time, is a licensed clinical professional counselor, a certified professional school counselor, a frequent contributor to The Washington Post and other national publications, and author of Middle School Matters. She is a school counselor at Sheridan School in Washington, D.C. and provides therapy to children, teens, and families at The Chrysalis Group Inc. in Bethesda, Maryland. Phyllis also speaks and consults on issues relating to parenting, counseling, and education. Her new book, Middle School Superpowers is the topic of today’s podcast! Important Messages: • What’s getting in their way? Body changes, new challenges—we can help them cope. Answering questions, extinguish fears, planning, pros and cons, etc. • Change: For a lot of kids, moving from those really warm supportive elementary years to that bigger environment is really, there’s a sense of melancholies about it. They feel like they’re leaving childhood behind. Normalize those feelings, help them figure out some strategies for managing that change, and reinforcing and understanding ourselves what it means to deal with change. We know people have a really hard time dealing with uncertainty. People would rather get a painful electrical shock than have a 50% chance of getting a painful electrical shock. And I think there’s some comfort for kids and knowing that change is hard for everyone. • One of the things I’ve noticed in the last few years, especially as kids return to school is that all of them feel awkward. All of them feel like their social skills are weak. Any middle schooler has the potential to say something that’s supposed to be funny and lands mean, and at any given time, even the most socially adept, quote unquote popular kid can feel awkward out on the block top trying to enter conversation. • We want to make sure that we are focusing on these skills for all kids in this age group and not making the mistake of thinking they’re too old for really concrete suggestions. The key thing is that we don’t correct them or embarrass them in front of siblings, in front of peers, that we do it in a way that’s like loving and non-critical and non-judgmental, which is very, very hard to pull off. • USE EXAMPLES FROM YOUR LIFE: I share in the book an example of a time when somebody suggests saying that to a neighbor who has pointed out that there are a lot of leaves on their lawn, that the neighbor clearly is worried that the leaves are going to blow onto that person’s lawn, and they’re trying to find a tactful way to suggest they clean up their yard. And it is a way for that parent to explain to a child some of those subtle nuances and communication that otherwise they might miss. • You might even say “I wish I could say…” “What’s in the back of mind is…” And then perspective take “But how would that land?” Transferability. • TACTICS: I had a very good sense of how the kids were doing socially, but she felt like she was incredibly ill-equipped to enter a conversation. And so we talked through what does that look like? Maybe you stand there long enough to listen to what they’re talking about when you have a sense of the topic, then you wait for a break in the conversation so you’re not interrupting anyone. And you ask them a question related to something they were clearly showing interest in. And that kid tried this and came back to me and was just flabbergasted that it worked. • TACTIC: If you have a kid who’s really struggling working with the school, I’ve assigned kids a wing girl or a wing boy, somebody who is really skilled socially and really extroverted, who will help them enter that conversation. And that’s of course done with enthusiasm from both sides and done subtly so that nobody’s embarrassed. • SET UP FOR SUCCESS NOT FAILURE: But anyt

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Helping Kids to Develop Sportsmanship - with Dr. Robyn Silverman Powerful Words | DrRobynSilverman

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How to Talk to Kids about Depression, Conflict & Coping with Katie Hurley – Rerelease

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Depression, Conflict &Coping with Katie Hurley This podcast will focus on kids who are coping with depression—but also teens who are going through a hard time or stressful periods of time.  Stress levels are rising among kids and they need to tools and guidance to cope with the big feelings that are tied up with stress. Katie Hurley and Dr. Robyn Silverman discuss how to talk to kids about depression, how we can change our moods, the red flags that might indicate a clinical problem and how to deal with conflict. Teens are motivated to help themselves and this podcast, as well as Katie Hurley’s new depression workbook, has many takeaways that will allow teenagers to do just that—but also know how to ask for help when necessary. Special guest: Katie Hurley According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, approximately one out of five teens has a mental health disorder, diagnosable by clinical methods, and nearly one-third show symptoms of depression. Now you might be thinking- well, many teens seem depressed to me, their moods and their emotions are all over the place! Stress is overwhelming! Yes, that can be true- symptoms of depression in adolescents aren’t always easy to identify because they often appear as normal adolescent behavior. But if we keep an eye open for consistent depressed behavior and indicators like, fatigue, changes in sleep patterns, changes in eating patterns, social withdrawal, and/or anger- these can serve as early warning signs that can allow us to get help for our teens as depression is absolutely treatable but NOT fixable on its own. Teens who have depression need therapy, support at home and yes, some also need medication. There’s no quick fix and thankfully, we have Katie Hurley here to explain how we know if our child needs help, what we and our teens can do at home to assist and what exercises and tools we can use to improve mood, self-esteem and motivation. Katie Hurley, LCSW, is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting expert, and writer. She is the founder of “Girls Can!” empowerment groups for girls between ages 5-11. Hurley is the author of The Happy Kid Handbook” “No More Mean Girls,” (both subjects we have interviewed Katie on previously on How to Talk to Kids about Anything) and her new workbook, The Depression Workbook for Teens, which is the #1 new release on Amazon for Teen and Young Adult Self Esteem and Self Reliance Issues. Her work can be found in The Washington Post, PBS Parents, and US News and World Report, among other places. She practices psychotherapy in the South Bay area of Los Angeles and earned her BA in psychology and women’s studies from Boston College and her MSW from the University of Pennsylvania. She splits her time between California and Connecticut with her husband and two children. The podcast provides: A discussion of depression and other big feelings like affect self-esteem and feeling good about yourself. Red flags that might indicate that our children are experiencing depression. How to talk to kids about depression What kids can do to help elevate their mood (eating, sleeping, activities) How conflict affects depression and our feelings around self-esteem. Open the door, listen, then talk to them about their brains later when the door is open more than a crack. Important Messages: Lots of stressors in the lives of teens. They are trying to improve the lives of others and themselves- we need to just give them some guidance and they can run with it! Lots of normal ups and downs in a teen’s life but one of the hallmarks of clinical depression is that it lasts for 2 weeks or more.    Depression doesn’t always look sad- it can look like anger and blow ups and irritation. Look for irritability that crops up over time and daily! Normal to put self in room every once in a while- if isolated and not around their friends anymore- that’s a problem. We often walk on eggshells with our teens since we don’t know how they’ll react- normalize the depression and depressive feelings. Script: “I found this great resource and you can use it or not- but it seems to me, and I might be totally wrong, that you seem a little lonely lately, that you don’t want to be with your friends, that you seem a little different. I’m here for you, you can flip through this resource or not, but I wanted to know that I’m thinking of you and if something’s going on, I’m here to listen.” Watch we come at our children- after school they are exhausted and saturated! How does our food affect our brains and our foods? Talk to kids about that! Limit processed foods and premade foods. Balance the food that is not homemade. Nuts, fruits, veggies, omega 3s, seeds, avocado- make a healthy habit. How do we find the time? Meal prep. Healthy foods. Sleep is essential for the teen brain. They need 8-9 hours per night. Most are getting 6-7. Bu

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Building Indomitable Spirit in Kids | Dr Robyn Silverman (Powerful Words Character Development)

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