Want your kids to come to you when they’ve made a mistake? Here’s where to start. In Chapter 7 of How to Talk to Kids About Anything, I talk about the common conversation stoppers that can shut kids down—and what to say instead to keep the door open. Stopper 1: Dismissing their feelings Instead of: “You don’t really feel that way.” Try: “I can feel how angry you are. That felt like a betrayal.” Stopper 2: Punishing honesty Instead of: “I can’t believe you did that. No phone for a week.” Try: “Thank you for coming to me. That took courage. Let’s talk it through together.” Stopper 3: Unsolicited advice Instead of: “If it were me, I’d…” Try: “What would be most helpful right now, advice, a hug, or just someone to listen?” We don’t need to fix everything; we just need to be safe enough for our kids to come to us, even when it’s hard. I go deeper into this in Chapter 7 of my book, How to Talk to Kids About Anything. Which conversation stopper resonated most with you? I’ve done them all. Let’s grow together. #HowToTalkToKids #ParentingAdvice #EmotionalSafety #DrRobynSilverman #ConnectedParenting #ParentingSupport
from Dr. Robyn Silverman
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OacylXtPGvk
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