Dr. Robyn Silverman: May 2023

Wednesday, 31 May 2023

How to Talk to Kids about Sexual Harassment with Lara Kaufmann & Dr

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Sexual Harassment This podcast will focus on how parents, teachers and coaches of children K-12 can start talking more openly about sexual harassment and sexual violence. In order for this kind of behavior to stop, everyone much address the norms and stereotypes that fuel it, so all young people can grow up safe, respected and valued. In 2006, Tarana Burke coined the phrase “Me Too” as a way to help women who had survived sexual violence feel like they were not alone. A year ago this week, actress Alyssa Milano reignited “me too” with a tweet that stated “If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write ‘me too’ as a reply to this tweet.” This was in the wake of accusations against movie mogul Harvey Weinstein and other powerful men in Hollywood. Since then, “me too” has become a movement among women who have been sexually harassed. Since then, a great deal of reports have come out and “metoo” has gained great traction among adults. But what about our teens? How are they experiencing sexual harassment and violence? Believe or not, 7 out of 10 girls experience sexual harassment and alarmingly, 1 in 4 girls will experience sexual assault or abuse before she turns 18. A recently released survey of young girls reveals that 3 out of 4 girls between the ages of 14 and 19 feel unsafe at least once in a while. At the root of this problem are limiting and harmful messages about how girls and boys should behave and be treated—messages that shape these impressionable minds and stick with them as they enter adulthood. As a response, and in honor of the 1 year anniversary of the week, Girls Inc, a nonprofit organization that inspires all girls to be strong, smart and bold through direct service and advocacy, along with its amazing network of girls and partners, are launching the #girlstoo campaign. This campaign will focus on sexual harassment and assault in the lives of youth, particularly girls, with actions aimed at addressing the norms and stereotypes that fuel these behaviors. To discuss how we talk about sexual harassment, assault and violence—and what we can all do ensure that our young people are educated, safe, respected and valued, we have Lara Kaufmann and Dr. Christia Spears Brown on the show today. Lara S. Kaufmann is Director of Public Policy for Girls Inc., where she leads the organization’s work to advance girls’ rights and opportunities and empower girls to advocate for social change. Prior to joining Girls Inc., Ms. Kaufmann was Senior Counsel and Director for Education Policy for At-Risk Students at the National Women’s Law Center, where she engaged in litigation, advocacy, and outreach to improve educational outcomes for at-risk girls and young women. She is a graduate of the University of Michigan and Northwestern University School of Law. Dr. Christia Spears Brownis a Professor of Developmental and Social Psychology at The University of Kentucky and the Director of the Center for Equality and Social Justice.Her research focuses on children’s experiences with discrimination and the development of gender and ethnic stereotypes. As part of her research, she examines the perpetration and acceptance of sexual harassment among adolescents and the consequences of sexual objectification of girls and toxic masculinity among boys. She also works to translate her work for both public policy and parents. Her book titled, Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes, describes research on gender development and offers guidance for parents for reducing the impact of gender stereotypes on their children The podcast provides: How “boys will be boys” can harm girls and boys How sexual harassment affects girls If sexual harassment is preventable How parents and teachers can help girls to be knowledgable and assertive about sexual harassment Why girls are often silent about sexual harassment What to say to boys and girls about sexual harassment How bystanders can be upstanders How to #metoo movement can include the #girlstoo component What parents and teachers can do right no0w to combat sexual harassment Important Messages: Girls receive messages that people are going to objectify them and this is just part of life- that this is what boys do. Boys get messages that this is what they are supposed to do and if they don’t, they’ll get teased. The Girls Inc survey showed that the number one thing that girls are concerned about is sexual harassment and sexual violence (and this was done a year before the #metoo movement took flight. Research tells us that when girls are sexually harassed they are much more likely to be depressed, anxious, have insomnia, stomach aches, headaches, poor body image, poor body image, do worse in school and want to avoid school. They are worse off in every way that we can measure— whether it be physical, psychological

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Friday, 26 May 2023

Building Fairness in Kids | Dr Robyn Silverman (Powerful Words Character Development)

✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ✅ IMPORTANT LINKS: 👉 https://www.powerfulwords.com/ ✅ Stay Connected With Me: 👉 WebSite: https://www.drrobynsilverman.com/ 👉 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drrobynsilverman 👉 TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@bigtalkswithkids 👉 Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/DrRobyn 👉 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drrobynsilverman/ ============================== ✅ Other Videos You Might Be Interested In Watching: 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman As Body Image Expert: How Barbie Dolls Can Impact Young Women | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_S5BXoUL-8 👉 Fighting Weight Obsession: Good Girls Don't Get Fat - Preview Of The Book | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmxq4VfA6LU 👉 Dr. Robyn Silverman's Expert Insights On Body Image On The Tyra Show | DrRobynSilverman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fp5hFoF65EU 👉 The Risks of "2 Sexy 2 Soon" - Dr. Robyn Silverman Shares Parenting Insights on Good Morning America https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8DJUi4Z7qU ============================= ✅ About Dr. Robyn Silverman : Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman is an internationally recognized speaker, author, success coach & educator on Parenting, Character Education and Body Image She has been featured on numerous TV shows, including The Today Show and Good Morning America, and has contributed to various publications such as The Washington Post and Parents Magazine. With a Ph.D. in Child and Adolescent Development, Dr. Silverman specializes in teaching social-emotional skills and character education to parents, teachers, and children. She has authored several books, including "Good Girls Don't Get Fat" and "The Power of Words: What We Say Matters. 📩 Email: DrRobyn@DrRobynSilverman.com 🔔 Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/drrobynsilverman ===================== #childdevelopment #parentingtips #expertadvice #confidencebuilding #positiveparenting #emotionalintelligence Disclaimer: We do not accept any liability for any loss or damage which is incurred from you acting or not acting as a result of reading any of our publications. You acknowledge that you use the information we provide at your own risk. Do your own research. Copyright Disclaimer: Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for "fair use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use © Dr. Robyn Silverman

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Thursday, 25 May 2023

Fun fact! Not all texts from my son are; “can you turn the wifi on for my computer?” You? Xo,Dr

Fun fact! Not all texts from my son are; “can you turn the wifi on for my computer?” You? Xo,Dr. Robyn #teeninspiration #textmessage #momsandsons #momlife #momsofsons #mothersandsons #momofteenagers #mysonshine #funnyparents #funnyparenting #funnyparentingmoments #ilovemyson #parentingmoments #tweens #connectingmoms #adhdmom #luckymom

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Wednesday, 24 May 2023

How to Talk to Kids About Becoming Individuals Without Interference with Julie Lythcott-Haims

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids About Becoming Individuals Without Interference with Julie Lythcott-Haims When I asked my next guest to come back on the show and I wanted to know what she’d like to discuss this time because she has such interesting perspective and a way with words—and she said, she’d like to talk about how “kids don’t thrive when they’re raised like dogs on a leash who have to go a certain way to please their owner (parent).” You see my next guest did this amazing, extremely popular Ted Talk in 2016 entitled “How to Raise Successful Kids- without Over-Parenting” which has just about 7, 500, 000 views now. And in it she talks about how mapping out our children’s every move, check-listing their childhood so that they get into the right colleges and get the right jobs doesn’t actually make a successful, fulfilled person unless success is only moving up a preconceived and narrow ladder that may not actually feel like success for your child. How can we, as parents, drop the rope—or the leash—that is keeping our children from their passions, from their individuality, from their destiny—and how can we talk to our children about embracing who they are, learning who they want to be and willingly taking the steps to forge their own path? For that, we are turning to Julie Lythcott-Haims. Special Guest: Julie Lythcott-Haims When I asked my next guest to come back on the show and I wanted to know what she’d like to discuss this time because she has such interesting perspective and a way with words—and she said, she’d like to talk about how “kids don’t thrive when they’re raised like dogs on a leash who have to go a certain way to please their owner (parent).” You see my next guest did this amazing, extremely popular Ted Talk in 2016 entitled “How to Raise Successful Kids- without Over-Parenting” which has just about 7, 500, 000 views now. And in it she talks about how mapping out our children’s every move, check-listing their childhood so that they get into the right colleges and get the right jobs doesn’t actually make a successful, fulfilled person unless success is only moving up a preconceived and narrow ladder that may not actually feel like success for your child. How can we, as parents, drop the rope—or the leash—that is keeping our children from their passions, from their individuality, from their destiny—and how can we talk to our children about embracing who they are, learning who they want to be and willingly taking the steps to forge their own path? For that, we are turning to Julie Lythcott-Haims. Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, public service, and activism. She is a New York Times bestselling author of books on human development, a TED speaker, a former Stanford dean, and a lawyer, and she holds a BA from Stanford University, a JD from Harvard Law, and an MFA from California College of the Arts. She serves on numerous nonprofit boards whose work focuses on equity, education, youth, wellness, or the arts. Julie lives in Palo Alto, California with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. She is a member of the Palo Alto City Council. Her latest book is a follow up to How to Raise an Adult, which was the topic of our last podcast episode together, and it’s called Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Important Messages: How can I help you grow stronger and more confident around the notion that this is your life, your one wild and precious life, quoting the late poet Mary Oliver? It is yours, not theirs. It is therefore on you to craft and shape and you are going to screw up. And that’s fine. You’re going to figure yourself out over time. That is what it means to live and I am rooting for you to do it. I’m a parent, just like everyone listening, we parents know a lot. We have good instincts, we have hopes and dreams and for our kids, we’re trying to do right by them. I want you to know as I’m about to give this advice that I am a parent who needed this advice. Being a dean, writing a book on the subject. I thought I understood what other people were doing wrong. And then I very humbly came to appreciate, oh, I’m doing it. I’m cutting my 10 year old’s meat. That was when I, oh God, yes, I was that parent, right? That I couldn’t be able to let go of an 18 year old at the college level or whatever he was going to do after high school if I’m cutting the meat of a 10 year old. There are so many life skills that have to be taught and learned and perfected, and eight years from 10 to 18 is not enough time. You got to get in the passenger seat and let them drive. Okay? You’re still there for the just in case moment. So they don’t drive off a cliff, but like, it’s their life. “My child is on the soccer team” “Not we” are on the soccer team. You feel you have to check those data and square them

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Tuesday, 16 May 2023

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🤔Had someone like Ms. Val in your life? Have you been a KEY and PRESENT ADULT in the life of a child? Drop a ❤️ if that’s true for you! 💕 👉How can you make a positive difference in the life of a child, teen or young adult even when you are NOT the parent? I talk about this in my keynote!#1️⃣ Be 1 of the 3. Did you know that young people don’t feel that they have at least 3 adults to turn to in a time of need or challenge?#2️⃣ Tell them! Your words matter. I see you. You are important.#3️⃣ Notice when things are off (and celebrate when things are good). “You seem down- want to talk?”#4️⃣ Be the bridge: you may not be the one who is able to help, but you may be able to get them to someone who can. “If I can’t help, I can get you to someone who will be able to do so.” Then, Follow up!!Tell me about your positive, powerful key adult in your life! Did you have do@some like Ms. Val? Are you this person for someone else? Tell me in the comments!PS my book, How to Talk to Kids about Anything,” is on pre-sale. Now wherever books are sold! I’d be so honored if you would purchase one now and I promise you that you will have hundreds of scripts and tips to make a difference in the lives of children, teens, and young adults. Here’s to connecting through conversation!Xo,Dr. Robyn #talktokids #connectwithkids #betheone #makeadifference #mentoring #crucialconversations #drrobynsilverman #authorsofinstagram #keynotespeaker #parentingtips #teachersoffacebook #principalsofinstagram #teachersfollowteachers #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #kidsneed #youmatter #goodteacher #thankyou #upworthy #goodnews #goodnewsfeed #powerfulwords High Point University Dr. Robyn J.A. Silverman Good News Movement

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How to Answer Kids’ Toughest Questions about Sex with Logan Levkoff, PhD ReRelease

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Answer Kids’ Toughest Questions about Sex This podcast focuses on answering some of kids’ toughest questions about sex and changing bodies. From puberty to erections, masturbation and what sex is, we’re going in! Dr. Robyn Silverman interviews sexuality educator and author, Dr. Logan Levkoff on the latest episode of How to Talk to Kids about Anything. Special Guest: Logan Levkoff, PhD Parents, much to their surprise, have a great influence on their kids’ attitudes and values around sex, body exploration and relationships. While kids might tell you that they absolutely, positively do not want to talk to their parents (of all people) about sex or dating, the studies reveal something completely different. Perhaps you remember when we had Richard Weissbourd of Harvard University on the show and he told us that his research continually shows that kids want to have these conversations with their parents—and not just once- they want to have lots of conversations about this information over time. They want the knowledge and they want the guidance. Now I know we’ve talked about the topic of sex before on this show—we’ve talked to Dina Alexander, Richard Weissbourd, Peggy Orenstein, Cara Natterson, and Bonnie J Rough about how to get at this difficult topic- we’ve also talked to Gail Dines about pornography and how that fits into this discussion too. But you know what? I think we are still uncomfortable about this topic. Would you agree? And as I’m currently writing the chapter of my book, How to Talk to Kids about Anything, on talking to kids about sex and synthesizing the research, all the hours of interviews we’ve done on this show about this topic, and telling you my own tips, scripts, stories and steps- I thought, let’s bring someone on who can get at some of our toughest questions. Questions that make us squeamish and yet, we still need to answer them for the health and wellbeing of our children. So are you ready? I am too. Let’s do it together. Bio Logan Levkoff is an internationally recognized expert on sexuality and relationships, Dr. Logan Levkoff encourages honest conversation about sexuality and the role it plays in our culture. Logan makes it clear that sex and sexuality are not “dirty” words; she works to create an environment where people feel comfortable asking (and getting answers to) their most personal questions. Logan empowers children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to.Logan frequently appears on television including Good Morning America, The Today Show, The Rachael Ray Show, The CBS Early Show, Oprah, Fox News Channel, andCNN. She was the host of CafeMom’s show, Mom Ed: In the Bedroom, the sexuality expert for the first three seasons of the breakout hit for A&E/FYI,Married at First Sight, and is the host of Shape Magazine’s video series, “The Sexpert.” Logan is the author of several books including Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities with Dr. Jennifer Wider. She lives in New York City with her husband, son, and daughter. Important Messages: Don’t just give information- impart skills! Health care, STI testing, relationship skills, negotiation skills, how to use condoms and other forms of contraception. Evenshopping skills- shopping for tampons, deodorant, bras, condoms. Critically important skills- we tend to focus on the information and not on the actionable skills. This becomes the parent’s wheelhouse. Some schools provide time for sexologists to give talks about contraception and demonstrate how to use it- but some don’t. The best sex-ed programs partner with the community at large. Parents need to ask questions about what their kids are learning. Sex educators are supplementing not taking the lead on info the kids need to learn about sex. Go shopping! See the products that are out there. They’ve changed a great deal over the years. Innovations- condoms and sexual health products. 5 Things impact everyone-puberty. The majority of things that happen during puberty happen to everyone! Fosters a sense of respect and empathy- no need to go to “the boys’ side” and “the girls’ side.” Most of what happens in puberty to kids is the same. The parts that are different are for the same reason- to activate reproductive system to give choices in the future. All bodies have the innate capacity for pleasure. Disservice to girls when we only focus male bodies and the pleasure that comes with erections and ejaculation. Puberty is a complicated time where you are navigating physical changes, emotional changes and social changes but there are a lot of positives- a sense of independence, understanding ourselves before sharing ourselves with the world around us, a need for privacy. “You are about to embark on a transitional time that is not an overni

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Wednesday, 10 May 2023

How do you thrive when your own father called you garbage-nothing- throughout your young life? Liste

How do you thrive when your own father called you garbage-nothing- throughout your young life? Listen in to this incredible success story from my guest, Peter Mutabazi Foster Dad. #parentingtips #successstory #crucialconversations #powerfulwords #childdevelopment #identity #authorsoffacebook

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Tuesday, 9 May 2023

How to Talk to Kids about Beating the Odds, Acceptance & True Self Worth with Peter Mutabazi

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Beating the Odds, Acceptance &True Self Worth What is to come for a child who is told he is garbage? Worthless? Beaten to the ground? I have often said that children who have the love, kindness and acceptance of an adult—or several adults—can be the difference. As you might remember me saying, Search Institute found that many young people don’t feel that they have at least 3 key adults to turn to in a time of need and challenge. Our next guest had a very hard start to his life—abused by his father and watching his mother and siblings meet that same fate. He survived the streets of Kampala Uganda and, due to the potential that someone saw in him- wound up going to school and altering his life for the better in every possible way. My next guest will help us to understand how to talk to kids about acceptance and true self-worth. He has a remarkable story. Special guest: Peter Mutabazi What is to come for a child who is told he is garbage? Worthless? Beaten to the ground? I have often said that children who have the love, kindness and acceptance of an adult—or several adults—can be the difference. As you might remember me saying, Search Institute found that many young people don’t feel that they have at least 3 key adults to turn to in a time of need and challenge. Our next guest had a very hard start to his life—abused by his father and watching his mother and siblings meet that same fate. He survived the streets of Kampala Uganda and, due to the potential that someone saw in him- wound up going to school and altering his life for the better in every possible way. My next guest will help us to understand how to talk to kids about acceptance and true self-worth. He has a remarkable story. Peter Mutabazi is an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources to encourage and affirm children. A single father and foster dad, Mutabazi is a former street kid who has worked for World Vision, Compassion International, and the Red Cross. He has appeared on media outlets such as the BBC and The TODAY Show and continues to be a passionate speaker. He currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. For more information visit: www.nowiamknown.com and follow Peter @fosterdadflipper. He has a book out right now called Now I am Known. Important Messages: It begins with me like a stranger who did not know me. A stranger who had never seen me before. We didn’t speak the same language. We didn’t look alike. But somehow saw potential in me. And so for me, what lights me up is when I see potential in others. I feel that I can impact on the children and the entire bio family as well. From a very early age, I had to understand that there was no life for me. That there was no hope. I knew my chances of survival were very, very small. No food. So that was the first hurdle that I really had to deal with, you know as a kid. And the abuse too. So not only the misery and hopelessness was lack of food and going to work as a kid at a very early age. I mean, at four I could go fetch water three miles away. But while you’re getting to fetch water, that’s where you get to meet the other kids who abuse you. Then coming home and having a dad who didn’t see any positive in anything you did, you know the moment he saw you, you garbage, ‘you stupid boy,’ ‘what are you doing here?’ My own father was my worst enemy. You also had to endure watching your mother get abused. Your mother had to endure watching you getting abused, and you didn’t hold that against her because if she came to rescue you, then she would’ve been abused again. There was an understanding between the two of you that unfortunately this was the reality, and there was that hopelessness. There was just part of the reality. Then you escaped. You had to endure some, some hardships, but also you got a sense of family and freedom at the same time. I think the hardest part as kids was a forced diet to kids is the guilt. Most of my abuse for my mother was the guilt because she was fighting for you to have a meal- she got a beating for that. Or she wanted us to be able to go to school. So as a 3, 5, 10 year old watching your mom trying to advocate for you, but she’s getting punished for that, that guilt is what is the hardest part to deal with. Running away wasn’t like I was looking for a better life. It was more of, I know he’s gonna kill me, but why give him the joy of killing me? I’d rather, you know. So for me, it was more of I’m gonna run and I would rather die in the hands of a stranger, you know? The only way you can get food when you are away from family is by stealing it. I looked at myself as garbage. Developed a relationship with a man named James who wanted to put you into a boarding school. At first, didn’t trust him—kind humans actually meant abuse. Danger. But I waited for t

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Friday, 5 May 2023

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Tuesday, 2 May 2023

How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr

Get More Info About Dr. Robyn Here: http://www.DrRobynSilverman.comHow to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated &Self-Controlled This podcast will focus on the science and sense of giving your kids more control over their lives. What can we do and say to help show our kids that we believe in them, trust them and feel confident about them making key decisions in their lives about what they need and want for themselves. When we take over, we weaken them and say “don’t trust yourself- trust me instead.” When we externally motivate and incentivize, we don’t allow them to look within themselves and find what intrinsically motivates them. If we want our children to be “self-driven,” we need to allow them to make decisions, make mistakes, learn from them and apply their new knowledge to the next set of decisions. In an interview with Dr. William Stixrud, best-selling co-author of The Self-Driven Child, we learn that this sense of control, while feeling supported by key adults, will benefit our children in all areas of their lives. Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has startedto be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don’t have the skills, yes, but also where they don’t have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child , authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent– and more themselves. William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children’s National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron’s, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The podcast provides: Why kids need to have a sense of control over their lives What self-control has to do with stress and why it’s such a big deal for kids Some ways that parents, teachers, admin, coaches and other adults who work with kids can get out of their own way and help to foster a healthy sense of control in kids Key ways to help kids find their own internal motivation General principles for communicating with kids in a way that nurtures a sense of autonomy or agency An example of what it SOUNDS like to communicate with kids in a way that nurtures autonomy. How a “consultant model” can work both for a parent and a coach or teacher in the life of a child What it sounds like to be a consultant in a child’s life rather than an enforcer or a rescuer who is taking over a child’s self-control? How this consultant model applies to kids with ADHD or learning disabilities—and what do parents need to know? How to talk with kids about mistakes and failure when we are urging them to take a larger role in the decision making in their lives—and what we do/say when they do mess up Important Messages: Stress has profound effects on the brain especially developing brains. Sonya Lupien, Neuroscientist in Montreal, summarizes the 4 things that make life stressful- acronym NUTS: Novelty, Unpredictability, Perceived Threat, Low Sense of Control. Sense of Control- most stressful if “something is happening but there is nothing I can do about it.” Dramatic increase of stress in recent years. How do kids get self-motivated? Sense of control. Need to find the healthy medium between excessively driven and what’s the point in trying? Look at research on sense of control: Live longer, healthier physically, cognitively, mental health, perform better, do better academically. Rese

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